On Marriage, Advice and Bill Murray

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“If you have someone that you think is The One… buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all around the world, and go to places that are hard to go to and hard to get out of. And if when you come back to JFK, when you land in JFK, and you’re still in love with that person, get married at the airport.”

Bill Murray ran across a bachelor party in Charleston this weekend (my bachelorette party missed him by a month! dang!) and gave this advice to the groom’s friends. Who would have thought that the guy behind “What About Bob?” could nail it like that? I may not be getting married at the airport but I could not agree with Bill more- find someone you adore…go through sticky situations, new situations, great situations, hard situations…abroad, locally, wherever…and if you emerge still adoring them? Marry them. Marry them immediately.

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Wedding Dress Shopping and Terrible Analogies

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This weekend was for wedding dress shopping. On Friday, my friend Kate and I did a test run appointment because I was sort of nervous and on Saturday, my mom came into town to do the whole shebang. We did traditional appointments, we went to a super fun off-the-rack couture gown place, did a spin through shoe stores on Oak St, had bubbly and lunch outside at Gibson’s and, in the end, returned to the place Kate and I went on Friday for the dress. It was a blast.

Someone told me a few weeks ago that finding a wedding dress is like dating- you know when you find The One and the whole process mirrors what it’s like to date.

No. No, it does not.

There was not a single time during my dating life where I felt bad identifying that there was no way in hell that a particular guy was right for me. I didn’t go “Oh but if I wanted to be with someone who has a serious drinking problem, this would be the guy for me!” or “Awww, this guy would go so well if I had a desire to live in a rural area” or “Shoot! My self respect is just going to rule this guy out.” Not once. Not for a minute. But that’s exactly how dress shopping was. Even if I didn’t love a dress or a certain dress wasn’t what I was looking for, I felt guilty for saying so and wanted to express all of the great qualities if the dress. I mean, I was trying on beautiful white dresses and I had to insult the pretty things just because one wasn’t my jam? It felt so wrong!

Instead, there was a lot of “If I were getting married on a Southern plantation, this dress would be perfect!” and “Please show this to your next client with a beach wedding” and “This dress is going to find a perfect home, I know it!”. So the moral of the story is that wedding dress shopping is not at all like dating but it is like being at the animal shelter. Only the right pet will do but you totally want the other puppies to find good homes too.

So either I was really bad at dating (likely) or really good at dress shopping or (most likely) really bad at analogies. But I won’t be naked while marrying the man I do know is right for me and I think that trumps everything.

Once Upon a Time

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I’m in Atlanta for my best friend’s wedding, which means getting ready in the most gorgeous suite I have ever seen, the bride spontaneously happy clapping every 2 minutes and time spent with some people I love, love, love.

Oh, and it also means this:


Twisted Mac & Cheese. The bride’s favorite place is the Hard Rock Cafe so we celebrated last night with the most lively waitstaff on the planet, music, and twisted Mac. So much fun.

It is so beautiful to be around such genuine joy and celebration. Everything about this weekend has been so authentically this couple and as a result, fun, easy going and enjoyable. This is one incredibly special couple and I am 100% confident that this Once Upon a Time will result in a Happily Ever After.